'It's ultimately up to you'

Has a parent ever heard a more assanine statement when it comes to their child's health? I mean, I know that it is true, but there are times when you just want a doctor to tell you what to do and what is the best thing for your child. I'm sick of political correctness and fear of lawsuits, although I certainly feel for all medical professionals. A feeding tube has been recommended for James and we've been battling the decision for a couple of months now. The most difficult part is that the decision is...'ultimately up to us'. Boo. Oddly enough, that's sort of always been a problem with James. He skates right on the line between not sick enough for real proactive interventions (except for minor ones) but not healthy enough for us to go about our lives. His weight gain is okay as long as nothing else interferes with it. Um...that's pretty tough with toddlers. Everything interferes with, well, everything. :) Lately he has been nice and healthy, but the weather has been nice so we have been running around outside all day long. Great for sensory, not great for weight gain. Aargh. We'll see.